I don't normally talk about my personal relationships on here, more specifically my "love life" because well, there isn't much to speak of. Recently though I started getting to know a guy at work and thought I might have to change my relationship status on facebook soon until it all came to a halt last weekend. Here is the story.
We started talking in the break room at work probably a few months ago. Just a quick hi, how are you type of thing. Then we started talking a bit more like having full conversations and getting to know each other. Then I ran into him outside of work and for the first time in a LONG TIME had the whole "I might be interested in you and can't think of what to say" moment. It was very awkward and I sensed some awkwardness from him as well so I knew he was at least a little bit interested.
Then him and another guy at work invited me to a get-together at another guys house one night. Just a little barbeque with some friends etc. It was a really great time and I got to know some other co-workers better. Then we went on our first "date" (just us two) the next weekend, just went for a walk then went back to his place after.
It was really fun and I was having a great time getting to know him. The only thing was I didn't feel that chemistry that you feel when you REAAAALLY like someone, y'know?? But I figured its no big deal, I haven't dated in a while and I wanted to give him a chance. He is also not the type I normally go for, because he is really quiet, but I figured that could be a good thing.
Anyways last weekend after another date he told me something that is a deal breaker for me. I don't want to divulge exact words spoken or anything but lets say he has a small substance abuse problem. ...
This guy is perfect on paper if you know what I mean. If you wrote down all his attributes and things about him, he seems like the perfect guy!! Until this. Let's just say we will not be dating. I still like talking to him and what not but I don't feel comfortable with the issue. We have hardly talked since then and I am pretty sure he senses my feelings about this. I still want to be his friend but haven't even got a chance to talk to him about it. :(
So I thought I would ask this question for all you bloggers. What are your deal breakers??